If I had to pick a character flaw of mine that causes the most problems, it would be that I tend to take things too personally. Something doesn’t go right? I’m convinced I played an integral part in it. My character flaw has even caused me to feel upset by things that had absolutely nothing to do with me.
For example, I remember over hearing someone talking about not liking cannolis (note: this person should never be trusted to start with because who doesn’t like cannoli?!), and I felt that their rejection of my heritages dessert was a slight against me! That’s extreme, but Sicilians and food is a serious business. My point is, there are a lot of things that I cannot control but I continue to take on their burden.
When I decided to make a career change I knew that it would not be easy. The economy is getting better, but it’s not exactly booming just yet. Finding the right fit can take some time and I knew that I had to be patient. Cut to a couple rejections later and I’m starting to worry.
“Thanks for your interest, but we decided to go with other candidates”, “After much consideration we have decided to go in a different direction”. Obviously those are not answers I want to hear. But I really need to make a conscious effort not to fall down the rabbit hole of “Oh, I’m never going to find a job! I’m going to be stuck in this way of life forever and die alone amongst a menagerie of feral cats!”. Don’t laugh, it was a real image that crossed my mind.
Looking for a job is a full time job and I guess it could be similarly compared to dating. You’re not going to date and marry the first person that shows interest, right? Something can look good on paper, like a dating profile, but the reality is much different. Same goes for my resume, from the employers perspective. Maybe I don’t have exactly what they are looking for, or maybe I do but someone else had another piece to add to the equation. It has nothing to do with me, Michelle Sabato, as a human being. But, like a rejection from a date, I do feel inclined to say “just get to know me and you will see that I’m right! I’ll even cook for you!”.
It’s very hard to not take rejection personally. In my mind, if I’m not being chosen then there is a flaw within me, right? Wrong. Not everyone is chosen for everything they apply for. It’s part of the process and it’s part of life. No one (to my knowledge) has been hired for every single job they applied for. And it isn’t due to a critical flaw in that persons character.
So to the people going through this process with me, let’s reflect and look at our resume again. See where we can improve and look for networking events to attend. Get to know the people in the field you want to go into and learn as much as you can. Keep applying for jobs and take a deep breath. And eat a cannoli, that always makes things better!