It doesn’t matter if you’re the toughest person in the world. Going through a break up is hard. When you let someone into your life, you expect them to stick around. But, that doesn’t always happen.
So, if you’re going through a break-up, it’s time to put down the ice cream, pick up your smile, and do the work to find happiness! You’re already off to a great start since you’ve made your way here. Here are some great tips on becoming a better you after a break-up.
1. Surround Yourself With Supportive People
After a break up, your first thought may be to lock yourself in your room and never come out. While giving yourself alone time can help you clear your mind and sort out your feelings, you don’t want to isolate yourself from the rest of the world.
Let your friends and family be your support system. Don’t try to escape the world. When your friends try to make you leave the house, let them. In the long run, it will be better for you to have them by your side than to be left alone.
2. Focus On Yourself
A break up gives you the opportunity to just think about you. Your happiness needs to be your top concern especially when you’re going through heart break.
Find things that you like to do and do them! No matter what anyone says, it’s time for you to regain what matters most.
3. Don’t Be Afraid To Seek Help
If you are having trouble getting control of your emotions, or if you just need someone other than friends and family to talk to, contact a therapist. Don’t let any stigmas about mental health hold you back.
When I was having a terribly emotional time in college, seeing a counselor really helped me sort out my emotions. The best part is they helped me learn to deal with them, as well. My counselor also gave me the courage to get out of the situation, which was the ultimate end of that horrible emotional time in my life.
There’s nothing wrong with taking care of you. This is one of the best ways to do it!
4. When You Break-up, Break up
Relationships are tricky. Your emotions may be all over the place when something ends. However, I think one of the worst things you can do is continue to be romantic with someone who is no longer your partner.
It’s confusing to you and confusing for your partner. So, when you (or your partner) decide it’s done for good, close the door on anymore romantic entanglements with that person. It’s what’s best for both.
5. Don’t Keep All Your Emotions Inside
Breaking up, no matter how you feel about the person, is hard. You may feel like you have to be brave to the world even when you’re sad and lonely. There is no shame in crying. There is no shame in missing someone that you used to love. Let it out!
If someone offers an ear, take it. You don’t have to pretend that you’re fine so you don’t seem weak or fragile. It’s often the ones who aren’t afraid to open up that are the strongest people.
6. Get Rid Of Their Stuff
I remember when I was in high school my friend had a really bad break up. To help her get over it, we gathered all the things that were his or reminded her of him, and we put everything in a box. Then, we took the box outside and set it on fire.
Okay, this may be a little extreme, but I have to say that it definitely felt like an end of an era afterwards. Moral of the story: Don’t hold onto old things from your relationship. Those things will only make you more sad.
7. Don’t Keep Tabs On Social Media
Block them. Most people who have gone through a terrible breakup will tell you the same.
I don’t think anyone in the history of the world has found something that made them feel better after a break up on their exes Facebook page. Just hit that little block button and walk away. You’ll thank yourself later.
If you need help, here’s how to block someone on some popular platforms.
8. Set a 30 Day No Contact Pact
When I asked the question, “how do you cope after a break-up?”, I got an interesting response. Someone had a wonderful idea to not contact their ex for 30 days.
I thought this was a great idea. It gives you the opportunity to give yourself the chance to move on. If they text, don’t respond. If you feel like calling them, don’t. Give yourself the chance to collect yourself before heading straight to the source of your pain.
9. Don’t Jump Into Another Relationship
We inevitably gain baggage when we leave a relationship. Other people shape how we see the rest of the world. Whether we like it or not.
So, I wouldn’t advise anyone to bring that fresh heavy baggage into a new relationship. Especially when you haven’t even had enough time to unpack!
10. Try New Things
Once again, take this time to find yourself outside of your relationship. Try something new that you’ve always wanted to do. Pick up a new hobby that will keep you happy and busy from thinking about your ex.
Definitely keep your head up and remember that you are strong. You can overcome anything! If you are struggling, please reach out to me!
What have you done to help cope during a breakup? Let me know in the comments.